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5 Ways to Make Them Want You More

Single?

It's NOT YOU—It's Your Technique

Depending on which course you choose, the BLACK LINKS below will take you to some or all of the solutions available within the Lasting Love Academy.

1. Use more slow and purposeful touch

Appropriate, simple touch is a powerful tool for making meaningful connections. However, many singles fail to touch others because they fear being too forward, looking desperate, making others uncomfortable, or seeming inappropriate.

Since touch can communicate many things, such as acceptance, comfort, playfulness, respect, attraction, and love, a lack of touch also communicates many things from distrust to rejection, dislike, and indifference.

The Lasting Love Academy will help you make a lasting impression through a variety of nonsexual touch that can be used in everyday situations or on a date. Men will appear more confident, classy, and charming as they anticipate needs, guide women through doors, and make others feel safe. Women will radiate more warmth, sincerity, and class as they express gratitude, act playful, and show interest in others.

You can do this. Touch is a mutually rewarding experience and communicates in ways that words can't. Your intentions will not be misunderstood. You can appear sincere and genuine while getting more dates, having fun, making others feel great, and exuding confidence.  

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2. Embrace your femininity or masculinity

Many singles struggle with acting feminine or masculine because they feel their appearance and mannerisms are too different from the ideal or they believe those who exude these characteristics are superficial, players, and insincere. This is unfortunate since masculinity and femininity do not need to be flashy or attention seeking and can have a powerful effect in one-on-one interactions.

Men are greatly affected by softness, touch, patience, appreciation, a warm smile, encouragement, curves, and some sensuality. Similarly, women are impressed by strength, protectiveness, trustworthiness, drive, ambition, hard work, good posture, loyalty, self-control, and respect.

Although you may feel you have these qualities, if you fail to demonstrate them in specifically recognizable ways, you will be less effective at maintaining the interest of the opposite sex. 

The Lasting Love Academy will help you unlock the masculinity or femininity that is an inherent part of your human nature. As you find ways to make these techniques your own, you will develop greater confidence and love the reactions you get from others. 

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3. Show confidence and invest in yourself

Often people believe they cannot act confident unless they feel it first. This is problematic since emotions are quick to change and affected by many things like fatigue, hunger, fear, etc. By contrast, understanding what confident behaviors look like and regularly choosing these behaviors can change and stabilize your emotions. In other words, faking it 'til you make it and confidence is as confidence does really work.

Confident behaviors are demonstrated in the way you sit, straighten you back, square your shoulders, stand, walk, and talk. Like any skill, all these things can be taught and mastered.

Additionally, you can choose thoughts that radiate self-respect and enhance the effect of your body language. Choosing to have faith instead of fear, to focus on truth instead of doubt, and to believe in your and others' goodness will make you feel and act more secure, drawing others to you. 

Whether you change your thoughts and body language or not, one reality remains; you are less likely to flirt when others' look good and more likely to flirt when you look good. Investing in your appearance is critical to your confidence and communicates your worth to others. When you make yourself look and smell great, you feel great, and when you invest in yourself, others feel more inclined to invest in you too.

Helping you to have a secure foundation and to think, act, and dress with confidence is an essential part of the Lasting Love Academy's books, audios, and videos. And for those who want feedback specific to their situation and needs, individual coaching is always available.

You can up your game, get better results, feel more secure, and make others want you more. After all, it's not you—it's your technique!

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4. Take the pressure off

Singles can often overthink the dating process, worry about issues that may arise in the future, fear wasting others' time, and resist action unless success is certain. This steals the fun from dating, makes them feel too much pressure, and drives them to avoid uncomfortable situations rather than develop good dating and relationship skills.

Even if you are not prone to such behaviors, you are likely to date those who are. The Lasting Love Academy will help you anticipate and counteract others' ineffective dating techniques, sabotaging behaviors, and over-reactions by using warm, direct, and clear invitations for fun. As you take the pressure off and make each other feel great, you both will enjoy and crave your time together.

The Lasting Love Academy will teach you how to declare your thoughts (rather than ask stressful define-the-relationship questions), touch, give compliments, and have fun without the other assuming more than is intended. Communication will be casual, comfortable, and clear. You will set healthy limits, manage expectations, and seem confident and secure, which helps others to feel the same.

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5. Leave them wanting more

A new love interest may feel pressure, trapped, and less intrigued if you prolong conversations and time together, share too much personal information (before they've invested enough to appreciate your vulnerability), or engage in sexual contact. Such mistakes are common and can be avoided when you know what to do.

The Lasting Love Academy will teach you how to engage in a confident way that leaves them wanting more. Your interactions will encourage the other person while not making you unnecessarily vulnerable. You will keep them intrigued and excited to see you again. They will see you as having a confident, fun, and happy life that requires them to plan ahead, knowing that if they do you will make time for them. You will encourage healthy relationships while being desirable and worth the other's investment and time.

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Not sure what you need?

Which Lasting Love Academy course is right for you?

If you struggle to date and are not currently in a relationship, then the Dating and Relationship Package would be the best fit for you. It is the only Lasting Love Academy program that includes all courses and books.

The Dating and Relationship Package includes:

A Dating box with four books for him or her: 

  • Single? It's Not You--It's Your Technique (255 pages)

  • Become Secure Workbook (140 pages)

  • Red-Flag Rulebook (92 pages)

  • It’s Just Technique (140 pages)

 

OR 

A one-year membership with access to ALL LASTING LOVE ACADEMY courses including:

  • Stage 0: Become Secure
  • Stage 1: Dating Skills (with online versions of the books and an audio reading of Single?)
  • Stage 2 to 5: Relationship Skills

totaling hundreds of articles and over 40 hours of audios and videos, all of which are mobile friendly.

and a

To know if the Dating and Relationship Package is right for you, take the following self-tests.

Do you need better dating skills?

  1. Do you struggle to get the attention of the opposite sex?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you worry about how to approach others, start conversations, and ask for (or give ) a number?  ____ Y/N
  3. Do you fear appearing needy and desperate, embarrassing yourself, or being rejected?  ____ Y/N
  4. Do you want to date more attractive, confident, or successful singles?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you get caught in the too-nice, just-friends, good-for-now, hanging-out, or texting traps?  ____ Y/N
  6. Do you worry about how to time and pace dates, appropriately manage affection, avoid sexual contact, date multiple people, identify early warning signs, and secure the attention of A-Listers?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you struggle to make meaningful connections on dates?  ____ Y/N
  8. Do you struggle to get repeat dates or move relationships toward exclusivity and commitment?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you fear define-the-relationship conversations?  ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to three or more of the questions above, then the dating advice found in the four books (that will be mailed to you) and the Lasting Love Academy courses will be well worth your investment. You will learn how to date more, date better, have fun, and secure commitment. 

Do you need better relationship skills?

  1. When in a relationship, do you feel self-conscious, anxious, and not good enough?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you struggle to have difficult conversations, to ask hard questions, or discuss the relationship?  ____ Y/N
  3. Do you fear being rejected at the first sign of being needy or imperfect?  ____ Y/N
  4. When your partner tells you they love you, do you feel concerned because you aren't sure you can honestly say the same?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you worry that problems in a relationship mean it's wrong or fatally flawed?  ____ Y/N
  6. Do you or your partner struggle with doubts about the other's commitment?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you or your partner hold back, not engage fully, or ignore the needs of the relationship?  ____ Y/N
  8. Do you avoid introducing your partner to friends, family, or work colleges because you dread the questions or the pressure that may result?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you or your partner struggle to depend upon, rely on, or need the other?  ____ Y/N
  10. Do you and your partner struggle to resolve issues, such as money, sex, religion, cultural differences, parenting, step-parenting, extended family, debt, education, career changes, etc.?  ____ Y/N
  11. Do you or your partner act manipulative, passive-aggressive, or aggressive?  ____ Y/N
  12. Are you fighting more, getting hung up on small issues, or feeling a desire to run away?  ____ Y/N 
  13. Do you find yourself doing most of the work in your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  14. Do you struggle to express your feelings, needs, or opinions?   ____ Y/N
  15. Do you analyze and worry about the best way to handle situations?  ____ Y/N
  16. Do you worry that the other person will become toxic, abusive, unfaithful, or addicted?   ____ Y/N
  17. Do you worry that you're too picky or not picky enough?  ____ Y/N
  18. Do you feel paralyzed by anxiety and feel relentless doubt about your attraction, compatibility, or what might be best for you (or them)?  ____ Y/N
  19. Are you typically the one who ends a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  20. Do you feel pressure to get married or break up? ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to five or more of the questions above, then the dating and relationship package will be well worth your investment. This skill-development program will help you resolve your doubts, improve your relationship, and make progress with more confidence than ever before. 

Do you need to become more secure?

Answer yes or no to the following questions.

  1. Do you find yourself doing most of the work in your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you struggle to express your feelings, needs, or opinions?   ____ Y/N
  3. Do you analyze and worry about the best way to handle situations?  ____ Y/N
  4. Are you primarily concerned about getting and keeping a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you rarely get excited about the people you're dating (or meet)?  ____ Y/N
  6. Are you consumed with fears of settling or being trapped in a relationship (even when you're with someone great)?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you regularly question whether or not you want to be in your relationship?  ____ Y/N
  8. Are you typically the one who ends your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you get caught in unhealthy, abusive, manipulative, unfaithful, or dishonest relationships?   ____ Y/N
  10. Do you have difficulty trusting your judgment?   ____ Y/N
  11. Do you fear to be with someone who has a drug, alcohol, or sexual addiction?  ____ Y/N
  12. Are you plagued by concerns over whether you should stay or leave a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  13. Do you worry that you're too picky or not picky enough?  ____ Y/N
  14. Do you feel paralyzed by anxiety and feel relentless doubt about your attraction, compatibility, or what might be best for you (or them)?  ____ Y/N
  15. Do you linger in relationships because it is difficult to feel peace, progress, or break up?  ____ Y/N
  16. When you break up are you relieved at first but then feel paralyzed by longing and doubt a few weeks later?   ____ Y/N
  17. Do you put your partners through a revolving door of commitment and doubt?  ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to five or more of the questions above, Stage 0 will help you to feel more secure, confident, and resolved about your decisions and relationships.

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The Relationship Package

includes a downloadable workbook

and a one-year membership to the Lasting Love Academy online courses of:

  • Stage 0: Become Secure
  • Stage 2 to 5: Relationship Skills

totaling hundreds of articles and over 20 hours of audios and videos, all of which are mobile friendly.

and a

This package is best for those who are already in a relationship or don't need dating advice. 

To know if the Relationship Package is right for you, take the following self-tests.

Do you need better relationship skills?

  1. When in a relationship, do you feel self-conscious, anxious, and not good enough?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you struggle to have difficult conversations, to ask hard questions, or discuss the relationship?  ____ Y/N
  3. Do you fear being rejected at the first sign of being needy or imperfect?  ____ Y/N
  4. When your partner tells you they love you, do you feel concerned because you aren't sure you can honestly say the same?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you worry that problems in a relationship mean it's wrong or fatally flawed?  ____ Y/N
  6. Do you or your partner struggle with doubts about the other's commitment?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you or your partner hold back, not engage fully, or ignore the needs of the relationship?  ____ Y/N
  8. Do you avoid introducing your partner to friends, family, or work colleges because you dread the questions or the pressure that may result?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you or your partner struggle to depend upon, rely on, or need the other?  ____ Y/N
  10. Do you and your partner struggle to resolve issues, such as money, sex, religion, cultural differences, parenting, step-parenting, extended family, debt, education, career changes, etc.?  ____ Y/N
  11. Do you or your partner act manipulative, passive-aggressive, or aggressive?  ____ Y/N
  12. Are you fighting more, getting hung up on small issues, or feeling a desire to run away?  ____ Y/N 
  13. Do you find yourself doing most of the work in your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  14. Do you struggle to express your feelings, needs, or opinions?   ____ Y/N
  15. Do you analyze and worry about the best way to handle situations?  ____ Y/N
  16. Do you worry that the other person will become toxic, abusive, unfaithful, or addicted?   ____ Y/N
  17. Do you worry that you're too picky or not picky enough?  ____ Y/N
  18. Do you feel paralyzed by anxiety and feel relentless doubt about your attraction, compatibility, or what might be best for you (or them)?  ____ Y/N
  19. Are you typically the one who ends a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  20. Do you feel pressure to get married or break up? ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to five or more of the questions above, then the dating and relationship package will be well worth your investment. This skill-development program will help you resolve your doubts, improve your relationship, and make progress with more confidence than ever before. 

Do you need to become more secure?

Answer yes or no to the following questions.

  1. Do you find yourself doing most of the work in your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you struggle to express your feelings, needs, or opinions?   ____ Y/N
  3. Do you analyze and worry about the best way to handle situations?  ____ Y/N
  4. Are you primarily concerned about getting and keeping a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you rarely get excited about the people you're dating (or meet)?  ____ Y/N
  6. Are you consumed with fears of settling or being trapped in a relationship (even when you're with someone great)?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you regularly question whether or not you want to be in your relationship?  ____ Y/N
  8. Are you typically the one who ends your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you get caught in unhealthy, abusive, manipulative, unfaithful, or dishonest relationships?   ____ Y/N
  10. Do you have difficulty trusting your judgment?   ____ Y/N
  11. Do you fear to be with someone who has a drug, alcohol, or sexual addiction?  ____ Y/N
  12. Are you plagued by concerns over whether you should stay or leave a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  13. Do you worry that you're too picky or not picky enough?  ____ Y/N
  14. Do you feel paralyzed by anxiety and feel relentless doubt about your attraction, compatibility, or what might be best for you (or them)?  ____ Y/N
  15. Do you linger in relationships because it is difficult to feel peace, progress, or break up?  ____ Y/N
  16. When you break up are you relieved at first but then feel paralyzed by longing and doubt a few weeks later?   ____ Y/N
  17. Do you put your partners through a revolving door of commitment and doubt?  ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to five or more of the questions above, Stage 0 will help you to feel more secure, confident, and resolved about your decisions and relationships.

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BECOME SECURE 

is a good beginner course for those who are ensure about their readiness to date or be in a relationship.

it includes a downloadable workbook

and a one-year membership to the Become Secure articles and audios, all of which are mobile friendly.

and a

To know if this Lasting Love Academy course is right for you, take the following self-test. 

Do you need to become more secure?

Answer yes or no to the following questions.

  1. Do you find yourself doing most of the work in your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you struggle to express your feelings, needs, or opinions?   ____ Y/N
  3. Do you analyze and worry about the best way to handle situations?  ____ Y/N
  4. Are you primarily concerned about getting and keeping a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you rarely get excited about the people you're dating (or meet)?  ____ Y/N
  6. Are you consumed with fears of settling or being trapped in a relationship (even when you're with someone great)?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you regularly question whether or not you want to be in your relationship?  ____ Y/N
  8. Are you typically the one who ends your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you get caught in unhealthy, abusive, manipulative, unfaithful, or dishonest relationships?   ____ Y/N
  10. Do you have difficulty trusting your judgment?   ____ Y/N
  11. Do you fear to be with someone who has a drug, alcohol, or sexual addiction?  ____ Y/N
  12. Are you plagued by concerns over whether you should stay or leave a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  13. Do you worry that you're too picky or not picky enough?  ____ Y/N
  14. Do you feel paralyzed by anxiety and feel relentless doubt about your attraction, compatibility, or what might be best for you (or them)?  ____ Y/N
  15. Do you linger in relationships because it is difficult to feel peace, progress, or break up?  ____ Y/N
  16. When you break up are you relieved at first but then feel paralyzed by longing and doubt a few weeks later?   ____ Y/N
  17. Do you put your partners through a revolving door of commitment and doubt?  ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to five or more of the questions above, Stage 0 will help you to feel more secure, confident, and resolved about your decisions and relationships.

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BECOME SECURE

$49.95

A beginner course that includes

CORE CONCEPTS

Does not include dating and relationship techniques.

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$35-$195

A complete program that includes

4 BOOKS, CORE CONCEPTS, and ALL DATING and RELATIONSHIP TECHNIQUES

GET EVERYTHING!

(choose one)

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Ideal for those who are either in a relationship or don't need dating advice. 

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 Alisa Goodwin Snell, M.A. 

  • author of seven books, numerous audios and videos, the It’s Not You—It’s Your Technique dating system, and the Lasting Love Academy courses
  • popular public speaker
  • guest on over 100 TV and radio programs nationwide
  • helped thousands of singles date more and find love
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Frequently Asked Questions

After choosing your payment option, you will be granted immediate access to the Lasting Love Academy. If you purchased, the Dating and Relationship Package, your books will arrive within a few days. As long as your books are gently used with no writing or marks, you can return them and terminate your membership for a full refund of your purchase. All membership refunds are dependent upon Alisa Snell, at [email protected], receiving a written request with "Refund" in the subject and your full name and email in the message.

Those living outside of the United States will receive a full refund, minus the cost of shipping. 

Although it is assumed that all singles will benefit from the concepts taught, individual results may vary. The Lasting Love Academy does not guarantee a specific outcome.

Many singles have offered testimonials about the Lasting Love Academy and clients have provided coaching reviews. Click these links to read what they have to say.

Most singles struggle with fears (such as not being good enough, rejection, failure, abandonment, being lied to, cheated on, and abused, or not having what other's experience). The Lasting Love Academy encourages singles to combat these fears with faith in themselves, their future, the goodness of the opposite sex, and religious or spiritual practices that support confidence in a loving God. The importance of empathy, self-control, and personal responsibility in relationships is taught. These values tend to align with most individuals and religions. Although Alisa Goodwin Snell's spiritual beliefs are briefly mentioned, the Lasting Love Academy is meant to be supportive of all religions.

If you struggle, like many singles, to have faith in spirituality or God, don't worry. This program will build on the faith that you have, or if you prefer simply ignore the principles of faith. 

The underlying concepts taught by the Lasting Love Academy should work universally among a wide variety of diverse populations. However, there are many dating differences between heterosexual, LGBTQ, and other social or cultural groups. The dating techniques taught in Stage 1: Dating Skills and in the Lasting Love Academy books, Single? and It's Just Technique were created and tested in a heterosexual and conservative population with traditional gender values.

Therefore, some singles (including those from LGBTQ, liberal, or other cultural backgrounds) may need to adapt the dating techniques to fit their specific culture or gender roles. The Lasting Love Academy emphasizes the importance of, and benefits that come, when individuals and couples exercise empathy, self-control, and personal responsibility. Those who appreciate these core values will find the Lasting Love Academy to be beneficial.

If you question whether the Lasting Love Academy would fit your needs, schedule a FREE CONSULT to discuss your situation and the best way to proceed.

If within 30-day you do not find the dating techniques are suitable to your situation, feel free to return them for a refund (as outlined under the 30-day guarantee).

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