SCHEDULE A FREE CONSULT

Existing member or client?

ACCESS YOUR COURSES SCHEDULE WITH ALISA

Reveal My Partner's 6 Hidden Needs

Single?

It's NOT YOU—It's Your Technique

Depending on which course you choose, the BLACK links below will take you to some or all of the solutions available within the Lasting Love Academy.

1. You're both right—neither of you is wrong.

Men and women do not desire to make the other unhappy, but common misunderstandings about their individual needs can lead to distrust of the other's intentions. Both can feel they are right, justified in their actions, and entitled to specific things from their partner. As they grow in resentment, anger, and hurt over their differences or unmet (and often uncommunicated) expectations, they can get trapped in a push and pull pattern of anxious and avoidant behaviors.

The Lasting Love Academy will help you break these patterns and create a secure attachment through communicating and listening to your partner's deeper needs, fears, and feelings. As you grow in your awareness of your partner's perspective, you will see that neither of you is wrong and both are right. From this foundation, you will focus on being effective in the relationship rather than proving your point. You will develop essential tools for solving problems and creating win/win solutions. And in those situations in which one partner is abusive, manipulative, unfaithful, or addicted, you will grow in your confidence about what steps you need to take moving forward.

You can have the knowledge and skills you need to be confident and successful!

Unsure what's right for you, 

Testimonials and FAQs

2. Men need faith and trust—women need safety and security.

Because men do not feel the same level of vulnerability that women experience (physically, financially, and sexually), they often don't understand how important safety and security are to women. Likewise, because men live in a world of competition and aggression with other men, women are often surprised that men crave and need faith and trust. Unfortunately, these needs regularly clash.

As a woman pushes for safety and security (because she doesn't feel a man's taking action soon enough), she may act in a way that makes him think she doesn't trust him (i.e., nagging him to commit or solve a problem her way). When she asks questions about his decisions or his past, he can feel cornered as if she questions his judgment (which is partially true). She wants to trust him and hopes he'll prove that she can, but she needs answers if she is to feel certain. Most men understand that respect is earned and are willing to jump through reasonable hoops to build it; however, as a woman's doubts or nagging persists, a man fears she'll never trust him and questions if it would be better to break up and find an easier relationship.

The Lasting Love Academy will help you communicate in a way that is friendly to the male and female psychology. You will trust your partner's empathy, self-control, and personal responsibility and develop a secure attachment through being available, responsive, and emotionally engaged. Your relationship will become fun again with lots of positives. You'll have faith and confidence in both your relationship and conflict-resolution skills

Unsure what's right for you, 

Testimonials and FAQs

3. Men need to feel like a success—women need to feel empowered.

Early in life, men are conditioned to be independent and responsible. They are encouraged to compete, face challenges, succeed, and conquer. Although not all men fit this ideal, they feel better about themselves when they do. This is why men often resist being pushed or driven by others, take pride in doing things their way, are more committed when they want something and pursue it, and are initially defensive when challenged. It's not that men need to have power and control since most men don't want to dominate or suppress others. They just want to be respected, viewed as competent, and feel like a success.

Women like being soft, feminine, and nurturing, but this can be hard in a world where one in three women are victims of sexual assault and stories abound of men who betray, abuse, or abandon women and their children. They want love and marriage but fear being powerless if they depend and rely on a man and worry that they might be better off on their own. This is unfortunate since jerks are in the minority and the average man is trustworthy, compassionate, and willing to share power and control. These men are drawn to the gentleness of women and feel the most successful in their lives when a woman acts feminine and trusting with them. This does not mean she has to submit or be silent. Men like women who assert their feelings and needs, and they want women to feel confident and empowered in their lives. They just need to know that she sees them as a success and trusts their goodness too.

To help you put to rest your distrust of the opposite sex and fears of depending on each other, the Lasting Love Academy will help you recognize a partner's empathy, self-control, and personal responsibility (the lack of which would indicate significant warning signs). As you understand the common differences between men and women, trust your partner's overall goodness, and express your needs, you will both feel successful and empowered in your relationship. You will experience the joy, security, strength, and trust that love can bring. You can do this!

Unsure what's right for you, 

Testimonials and FAQs

4. Men like femininity—women like strength.

Men and woman are greatly affected by femininity and masculinity. Men love softness, touch, patience, appreciation, a warm smile, encouragement, curves, and some sensuality. Similarly, women are impressed by strength, protectiveness, trustworthiness, drive, ambition, hard work, good posture, loyalty, self-control, and respect. When men and women offer each other these behaviors, it increases the passion, playfulness, and excitement they feel for the other.

Many singles struggle with acting feminine or masculine because they feel their appearance and mannerisms are too different from the ideal or they believe those who exude these characteristics are superficial, players, and insincere. This is unfortunate since masculinity and femininity do not need to be flashy or attention seeking and can have a powerful effect in one-on-one interactions.

The Lasting Love Academy will help you unlock the strength and confidence or softness and femininity that are an inherent part of your human nature. As you find ways to make these techniques your own, you will develop greater enjoyment in their expression and the reactions of your partner.

Unsure what's right for you, 

Testimonials and FAQs

5. Men want to be needed and appreciate—women need to be wanted and adored.

A man who is not needed and appreciated will question where he belongs and whether his sacrifices matter. He wants to be a hero and make others happy. He does not want to be burdened by unreasonable demands or feel dumped on, but he does want to know others depend on him and his presence would be missed. He resists burdening others, but he knows he needs them too. When a woman responds to his sacrifices with love, affection, appreciation, and fun, he feels she cares about his needs and happiness as well.

Women enjoy nurturing others and often overwhelm themselves with the responsibilities of life and caretaking. Unfortunately, when a woman's life becomes stressful and excessively busy, she can feel resentful that her partner isn't doing more and subsequently question his love for her. She wants to feel wanted, not needed, and be his sweetheart, not taken for granted. When she complains or criticizes him for not being more loving, he usually feels less motivated, understood, and appreciated for what he does. 

The Lasting Love Academy will help you express your needs and pursue your partner's attention in a confident, playful, and attractive way that makes them want you more. You will influence (not manipulate) and depend and rely on each other (without overburdening the other). And when your partner needs to reject you, you'll handle it in a way that makes them want you more.

Unsure what's right for you, 

Testimonials and FAQs

6. Men bond through doing activities—women through talking about problems—and both enjoy sharing feelings and ideas.

Men feel physiologically more anxious and distressed during difficult conversations than women feel. This is why they prefer to bond through doing or talking about things and activities. However, women feel emotionally and physiologically distressed when they don't talk about the people and problems that are causing them anxiety (including their partner and the relationship). Although such conversations are less desirable for men, when the discussion becomes elevate to talking about mutual feelings and ideas, they enjoy communication and feel more connected as well.

The Lasting Love Academy will help you solve problems in your relationship and life in a way that increases all three levels of bonding. You will experience more fun, forgive each others' weaknesses, share your feelings and ideas with mutual trust and respect, resolve conflictdevelop greater confidence, and feel gratitude for the lessons you learn and the closeness your gain.

Unsure what's right for you, 

Testimonials and FAQs

Not sure what you need?

Which Lasting Love Academy course is right for you?

If you struggle to date and are not currently in a relationship, then the Dating and Relationship Package would be the best fit for you. It is the only Lasting Love Academy program that includes all courses and books.

The Dating and Relationship Package includes:

A Dating box with four books for him or her: 

  • Single? It's Not You--It's Your Technique (255 pages)

  • Become Secure Workbook (140 pages)

  • Red-Flag Rulebook (92 pages)

  • It’s Just Technique (140 pages)

 

OR 

A one-year membership with access to ALL LASTING LOVE ACADEMY courses including:

  • Stage 0: Become Secure
  • Stage 1: Dating Skills (with online versions of the books and an audio reading of Single?)
  • Stage 2 to 5: Relationship Skills

totaling hundreds of articles and over 40 hours of audios and videos, all of which are mobile friendly.

and a

To know if the Dating and Relationship Package is right for you, take the following self-tests.

Do you need better dating skills?

  1. Do you struggle to get the attention of the opposite sex?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you worry about how to approach others, start conversations, and ask for (or give ) a number?  ____ Y/N
  3. Do you fear appearing needy and desperate, embarrassing yourself, or being rejected?  ____ Y/N
  4. Do you want to date more attractive, confident, or successful singles?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you get caught in the too-nice, just-friends, good-for-now, hanging-out, or texting traps?  ____ Y/N
  6. Do you worry about how to time and pace dates, appropriately manage affection, avoid sexual contact, date multiple people, identify early warning signs, and secure the attention of A-Listers?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you struggle to make meaningful connections on dates?  ____ Y/N
  8. Do you struggle to get repeat dates or move relationships toward exclusivity and commitment?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you fear define-the-relationship conversations?  ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to three or more of the questions above, then the dating advice found in the four books (that will be mailed to you) and the Lasting Love Academy courses will be well worth your investment. You will learn how to date more, date better, have fun, and secure commitment. 

Do you need better relationship skills?

  1. When in a relationship, do you feel self-conscious, anxious, and not good enough?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you struggle to have difficult conversations, to ask hard questions, or discuss the relationship?  ____ Y/N
  3. Do you fear being rejected at the first sign of being needy or imperfect?  ____ Y/N
  4. When your partner tells you they love you, do you feel concerned because you aren't sure you can honestly say the same?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you worry that problems in a relationship mean it's wrong or fatally flawed?  ____ Y/N
  6. Do you or your partner struggle with doubts about the other's commitment?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you or your partner hold back, not engage fully, or ignore the needs of the relationship?  ____ Y/N
  8. Do you avoid introducing your partner to friends, family, or work colleges because you dread the questions or the pressure that may result?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you or your partner struggle to depend upon, rely on, or need the other?  ____ Y/N
  10. Do you and your partner struggle to resolve issues, such as money, sex, religion, cultural differences, parenting, step-parenting, extended family, debt, education, career changes, etc.?  ____ Y/N
  11. Do you or your partner act manipulative, passive-aggressive, or aggressive?  ____ Y/N
  12. Are you fighting more, getting hung up on small issues, or feeling a desire to run away?  ____ Y/N 
  13. Do you find yourself doing most of the work in your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  14. Do you struggle to express your feelings, needs, or opinions?   ____ Y/N
  15. Do you analyze and worry about the best way to handle situations?  ____ Y/N
  16. Do you worry that the other person will become toxic, abusive, unfaithful, or addicted?   ____ Y/N
  17. Do you worry that you're too picky or not picky enough?  ____ Y/N
  18. Do you feel paralyzed by anxiety and feel relentless doubt about your attraction, compatibility, or what might be best for you (or them)?  ____ Y/N
  19. Are you typically the one who ends a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  20. Do you feel pressure to get married or break up? ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to five or more of the questions above, then the dating and relationship package will be well worth your investment. This skill-development program will help you resolve your doubts, improve your relationship, and make progress with more confidence than ever before. 

Do you need to become more secure?

Answer yes or no to the following questions.

  1. Do you find yourself doing most of the work in your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you struggle to express your feelings, needs, or opinions?   ____ Y/N
  3. Do you analyze and worry about the best way to handle situations?  ____ Y/N
  4. Are you primarily concerned about getting and keeping a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you rarely get excited about the people you're dating (or meet)?  ____ Y/N
  6. Are you consumed with fears of settling or being trapped in a relationship (even when you're with someone great)?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you regularly question whether or not you want to be in your relationship?  ____ Y/N
  8. Are you typically the one who ends your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you get caught in unhealthy, abusive, manipulative, unfaithful, or dishonest relationships?   ____ Y/N
  10. Do you have difficulty trusting your judgment?   ____ Y/N
  11. Do you fear to be with someone who has a drug, alcohol, or sexual addiction?  ____ Y/N
  12. Are you plagued by concerns over whether you should stay or leave a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  13. Do you worry that you're too picky or not picky enough?  ____ Y/N
  14. Do you feel paralyzed by anxiety and feel relentless doubt about your attraction, compatibility, or what might be best for you (or them)?  ____ Y/N
  15. Do you linger in relationships because it is difficult to feel peace, progress, or break up?  ____ Y/N
  16. When you break up are you relieved at first but then feel paralyzed by longing and doubt a few weeks later?   ____ Y/N
  17. Do you put your partners through a revolving door of commitment and doubt?  ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to five or more of the questions above, Stage 0 will help you to feel more secure, confident, and resolved about your decisions and relationships.

Unsure what's right for you, 

Testimonials and FAQs

The Relationship Package

includes a downloadable workbook

and a one-year membership to the Lasting Love Academy online courses of:

  • Stage 0: Become Secure
  • Stage 2 to 5: Relationship Skills

totaling hundreds of articles and over 20 hours of audios and videos, all of which are mobile friendly.

and a

This package is best for those who are already in a relationship or don't need dating advice. 

To know if the Relationship Package is right for you, take the following self-tests.

Do you need better relationship skills?

  1. When in a relationship, do you feel self-conscious, anxious, and not good enough?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you struggle to have difficult conversations, to ask hard questions, or discuss the relationship?  ____ Y/N
  3. Do you fear being rejected at the first sign of being needy or imperfect?  ____ Y/N
  4. When your partner tells you they love you, do you feel concerned because you aren't sure you can honestly say the same?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you worry that problems in a relationship mean it's wrong or fatally flawed?  ____ Y/N
  6. Do you or your partner struggle with doubts about the other's commitment?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you or your partner hold back, not engage fully, or ignore the needs of the relationship?  ____ Y/N
  8. Do you avoid introducing your partner to friends, family, or work colleges because you dread the questions or the pressure that may result?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you or your partner struggle to depend upon, rely on, or need the other?  ____ Y/N
  10. Do you and your partner struggle to resolve issues, such as money, sex, religion, cultural differences, parenting, step-parenting, extended family, debt, education, career changes, etc.?  ____ Y/N
  11. Do you or your partner act manipulative, passive-aggressive, or aggressive?  ____ Y/N
  12. Are you fighting more, getting hung up on small issues, or feeling a desire to run away?  ____ Y/N 
  13. Do you find yourself doing most of the work in your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  14. Do you struggle to express your feelings, needs, or opinions?   ____ Y/N
  15. Do you analyze and worry about the best way to handle situations?  ____ Y/N
  16. Do you worry that the other person will become toxic, abusive, unfaithful, or addicted?   ____ Y/N
  17. Do you worry that you're too picky or not picky enough?  ____ Y/N
  18. Do you feel paralyzed by anxiety and feel relentless doubt about your attraction, compatibility, or what might be best for you (or them)?  ____ Y/N
  19. Are you typically the one who ends a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  20. Do you feel pressure to get married or break up? ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to five or more of the questions above, then the dating and relationship package will be well worth your investment. This skill-development program will help you resolve your doubts, improve your relationship, and make progress with more confidence than ever before. 

Do you need to become more secure?

Answer yes or no to the following questions.

  1. Do you find yourself doing most of the work in your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you struggle to express your feelings, needs, or opinions?   ____ Y/N
  3. Do you analyze and worry about the best way to handle situations?  ____ Y/N
  4. Are you primarily concerned about getting and keeping a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you rarely get excited about the people you're dating (or meet)?  ____ Y/N
  6. Are you consumed with fears of settling or being trapped in a relationship (even when you're with someone great)?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you regularly question whether or not you want to be in your relationship?  ____ Y/N
  8. Are you typically the one who ends your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you get caught in unhealthy, abusive, manipulative, unfaithful, or dishonest relationships?   ____ Y/N
  10. Do you have difficulty trusting your judgment?   ____ Y/N
  11. Do you fear to be with someone who has a drug, alcohol, or sexual addiction?  ____ Y/N
  12. Are you plagued by concerns over whether you should stay or leave a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  13. Do you worry that you're too picky or not picky enough?  ____ Y/N
  14. Do you feel paralyzed by anxiety and feel relentless doubt about your attraction, compatibility, or what might be best for you (or them)?  ____ Y/N
  15. Do you linger in relationships because it is difficult to feel peace, progress, or break up?  ____ Y/N
  16. When you break up are you relieved at first but then feel paralyzed by longing and doubt a few weeks later?   ____ Y/N
  17. Do you put your partners through a revolving door of commitment and doubt?  ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to five or more of the questions above, Stage 0 will help you to feel more secure, confident, and resolved about your decisions and relationships.

Unsure what's right for you, 

Testimonials and FAQs

BECOME SECURE 

is a good beginner course for those who are ensure about their readiness to date or be in a relationship.

it includes a downloadable workbook

and a one-year membership to the Become Secure articles and audios, all of which are mobile friendly.

and a

To know if this Lasting Love Academy course is right for you, take the following self-test. 

Do you need to become more secure?

Answer yes or no to the following questions.

  1. Do you find yourself doing most of the work in your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you struggle to express your feelings, needs, or opinions?   ____ Y/N
  3. Do you analyze and worry about the best way to handle situations?  ____ Y/N
  4. Are you primarily concerned about getting and keeping a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you rarely get excited about the people you're dating (or meet)?  ____ Y/N
  6. Are you consumed with fears of settling or being trapped in a relationship (even when you're with someone great)?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you regularly question whether or not you want to be in your relationship?  ____ Y/N
  8. Are you typically the one who ends your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you get caught in unhealthy, abusive, manipulative, unfaithful, or dishonest relationships?   ____ Y/N
  10. Do you have difficulty trusting your judgment?   ____ Y/N
  11. Do you fear to be with someone who has a drug, alcohol, or sexual addiction?  ____ Y/N
  12. Are you plagued by concerns over whether you should stay or leave a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  13. Do you worry that you're too picky or not picky enough?  ____ Y/N
  14. Do you feel paralyzed by anxiety and feel relentless doubt about your attraction, compatibility, or what might be best for you (or them)?  ____ Y/N
  15. Do you linger in relationships because it is difficult to feel peace, progress, or break up?  ____ Y/N
  16. When you break up are you relieved at first but then feel paralyzed by longing and doubt a few weeks later?   ____ Y/N
  17. Do you put your partners through a revolving door of commitment and doubt?  ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to five or more of the questions above, Stage 0 will help you to feel more secure, confident, and resolved about your decisions and relationships.

Unsure what's right for you, 

Testimonials and FAQs

BECOME SECURE

$49.95

A beginner course that includes

CORE CONCEPTS

Does not include dating and relationship techniques.

START NOW!

DATING AND RELATIONSHIP PACKAGE

$35-$195

A complete program that includes

4 BOOKS, CORE CONCEPTS, and ALL DATING and RELATIONSHIP TECHNIQUES

GET EVERYTHING!

(choose one)

$245 for international purchases

6 PAYMENTS OF $35

RELATIONSHIP PACKAGE

$95

An advanced program that includes

CORE CONCEPTS and RELATIONSHIP TECHNIQUES

Ideal for those who are either in a relationship or don't need dating advice. 

START NOW!

Alisa Goodwin Snell, M.A. 

  • author of seven books, numerous audios and videos, the It’s Not You—It’s Your Technique dating system, and the Lasting Love Academy courses
  • popular public speaker
  • guest on over 100 TV and radio programs nationwide
  • helped thousands of singles date more and find love
SCHEDULE WITH ALISA

Featured on over 100 TV and radio programs including

Frequently Asked Questions

After choosing your payment option, you will be granted immediate access to the Lasting Love Academy. If you purchased, the Dating and Relationship Package, your books will arrive within a few days. As long as your books are gently used with no writing or marks, you can return them and terminate your membership for a full refund of your purchase. All membership refunds are dependent upon Alisa Snell, at [email protected], receiving a written request with "Refund" in the subject and your full name and email in the message.

Those living outside of the United States will receive a full refund, minus the cost of shipping. 

Although it is assumed that all singles will benefit from the concepts taught, individual results may vary. The Lasting Love Academy does not guarantee a specific outcome.

Many singles have offered testimonials about the Lasting Love Academy and clients have provided coaching reviews. Click these links to read what they have to say.

Most singles struggle with fears (such as not being good enough, rejection, failure, abandonment, being lied to, cheated on, and abused, or not having what other's experience). The Lasting Love Academy encourages singles to combat these fears with faith in themselves, their future, the goodness of the opposite sex, and religious or spiritual practices that support confidence in a loving God. The importance of empathy, self-control, and personal responsibility in relationships is taught. These values tend to align with most individuals and religions. Although Alisa Goodwin Snell's spiritual beliefs are briefly mentioned, the Lasting Love Academy is meant to be supportive of all religions.

If you struggle, like many singles, to have faith in spirituality or God, don't worry. This program will build on the faith that you have, or if you prefer simply ignore the principles of faith. 

The underlying concepts taught by the Lasting Love Academy should work universally among a wide variety of diverse populations. However, there are many dating differences between heterosexual, LGBTQ, and other social or cultural groups. The dating techniques taught in Stage 1: Dating Skills and in the Lasting Love Academy books, Single? and It's Just Technique were created and tested in a heterosexual and conservative population with traditional gender values.

Therefore, some singles (including those from LGBTQ, liberal, or other cultural backgrounds) may need to adapt the dating techniques to fit their specific culture or gender roles. The Lasting Love Academy emphasizes the importance of, and benefits that come, when individuals and couples exercise empathy, self-control, and personal responsibility. Those who appreciate these core values will find the Lasting Love Academy to be beneficial.

If you question whether the Lasting Love Academy would fit your needs, schedule a FREE CONSULT to discuss your situation and the best way to proceed.

If within 30-day you do not find the dating techniques are suitable to your situation, feel free to return them for a refund (as outlined under the 30-day guarantee).

The terms and conditions are available at the bottom of this page but can also be accessed through the following links.

Rules for participation apply Conditions | Copyright | Disclaimers Fee Agreement | Refunds | Product Issues Terms of Use Privacy

Close

50% Complete

Two Step

Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit, sed do eiusmod tempor incididunt ut labore et dolore magna aliqua.