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Escape the 5 Common Dating Traps

Single?

It's NOT YOU—It's Your Technique

Depending on which course you choose, the BLACK links below will take you to some or all of the solutions available within the Lasting Love Academy.

If you spend more time hanging out than dating, you may be sabotaging other's romantic interest in you. Take this self-test to discover what you're doing wrong. 

5 Ways Hanging Out Is Killing Your Dating Life

When with singles at a friend's house, church group, social event, or school activity:

  1. Do you dress casually or frumpy? Yes/No 
  2. Do you talk negatively about others or your life? Yes/No
  3. Do you slouch, make self-deprecating comments, or act shy? Yes/No
  4. Do you go to all available events, arrive early, and stay late? Yes/No
  5. Do you touch everyone or no one? Yes/No

If you answered yes to three or more of these questions, then your approach to hanging out is hurting your dating life.

If you're dressing frumpy, not styling your hair or beard, or failing to give attention to small details like jewelry, cologne, and stylish socks or shoes, then you're less likely to create excitement in others. You may believe that being casual and fun is the best way to make someone like you, but acting like a pal rarely creates the intrigue and passion that confidence and femininity or masculinity bring. This is especially true when you use poor posture, make self-deprecating comments, apologize excessively, or talk negatively about your life or others. 

Arriving early, staying late, and consistently being at the same social events makes getting to know you too easy and doesn't require the real sacrifice or investment that would help others appreciate you. Because you're always around, potential dates feel less curious about you and more excited about newcomers. Additionally, when you don't touch anyone, or touch everyone, at an event, no one feels special or unique.

The Lasting Love Academy will help you up your game, make a great first impression, build a meaningful connection through simple touch, leave others wanting more, and encourage one-on-one contact and dates.

So, if the highlight of your month is a singles activity that usually ends disappointingly, it's time to change your technique and step up your efforts. You can do this!

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If you have a crush on a friend, you may wonder if they feel the same and whether a romantic relationship could be possible. Take this self-test to discover if you are Just Friends or More.

 5 Signs You're Just Friends

  1. Does the person you're crushing on talk about those they like and are dating? Yes/No
  2. Do they rarely touch you in romantic ways (i.e., hold your hand, snuggle close during a hug or movie, or kiss you)? Yes/No
  3. Do they ask who you're dating, encourage your interest in others, or set you up with their friends? Yes/No
  4. Do they invite you to group activities and openly flirt with others in front of you? Yes/No
  5. Do they ask you to set them up with your friends? Yes/No

If you answered yes to three or more questions, then they only see you as a friend, and it's unlikely they will ever feel differently (this is especially true for men). They are either not attracted to you, see you as less confident, or are looking for qualities that you don't possess. 

The Lasting Love Academy will help you take steps to become something more by helping you up your game, become more exciting, and increase their affection and investment. And if they don't respond, you will move on with confidence rather than letting their friendship hold you back from the attention, affection, and love you deserve.

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If you wonder whether you're too nice and why this is a problem, take this self-test to find out.

7 Signs You're Too Nice

  1. Do you act warm, kind, thoughtful, curious, and complimentary?  Yes/No

  2. Do you frequently say yes, volunteer for projects, anticipate others' needs, or do things to please even when it's not in your best interest to do so?  Yes/No
  3. Do you act okay when others' back out of plans, arrive excessively late, break promises, don't pay you back, or treat you with disrespect?  Yes/No
  4.  Do you struggle to express your feelings, needs, opinions, or say no because you don't know how, you doubt yourself, or you fear others' reactions?  Yes/No
  5. Do others tell you that you're too nice and need to stand up for yourself?  Yes/No
  6. Do you deny your feelings (resentment, anger, frustration) even when others ask?  Yes/No
  7. Do you continue with unwanted commitments even when others give you a way out?  Yes/No

If you answered yes to three or more of the above questions, then others probably see you as being too nice and struggle to feel as attracted and excited about you.

The problem isn't being nice, but that you seem less confident. Your difficulty setting boundaries, saying no, or expecting better treatment makes them respect you less, and since they aren't sacrificing for you, they don't feel invested in your happiness. They take for granted that you are okay with how they treat you and don't worry about your feelings or needs (because you rarely share them). Your eagerness to take care of others attracts those who are more sick, needy, and selfish since it seems you are easy to manipulate.

The Lasting Love Academy will help you face your fears, act with confidence, express your needs, and get more investment, excitement, and respect from others. You will confront your thinking errors, avoid your anxious attachment pattern, and secure more commitment from those you date. After all, it's not you—it's your technique! and you're worth their investment.

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If you're struggling to get a commitment from someone you like and worry that they're just using you, take this self-test to discover the truth.

5 Signs You're Stuck in the Good-For-Now Trap

  1. Does your dating partner call you at the last minute to hang out and only after their other weekend plans fall through? Yes/No
  2. Do they rarely pay for your dinner and activities but ask you to pay for them (using varies excuses or promises that they don't keep)? Yes/No
  3. Do they insist on being free to date others, yet they contact you several times a day, spend most of their time with you, and ask you to do things that only boy or girlfriends would do (i.e., they act sexually with you, ask for help with their bills or kids, or stay the night)? Yes/No
  4. Do they say you're amazing, tell you how much you mean to them, or express that they love you, but they're actions don't match their words (i.e., they have secret relationships, take trips without you, remain active on dating apps, lie to you about what they're doing)? Yes/No
  5. Do they keep you a secret from their friends, family, and co-workers, act cool toward you when in public, and resist taking you to social events? Yes/No

If you answered yes to two or more of the questions above, then you are probably in the good-for-now trap. They like you and what you do for them (i.e., they're using you), but they do not respect or value you enough to commit. They don't want to lose you, because you're convenient, useful, and make them feel good, but they'd quickly jump for something better if it presented itself. 

The Lasting Love Academy will help you expect more and, therefore, get more. You will lovingly express your feelings and needs in a way that is friendly to the male and female psychology, support them in taking responsibility (instead of fixing their problems), act with more faith in yourself, get more attention, affection, and commitment, and increase your odds for a secure relationship. If your efforts don't change the relationship, you will feel confident about what this means and walk away, knowing that others will love and invest in you because you're worth it.

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If you are currently single or in the early stages of a relationship and want to prevent an addicted, abusive, or manipulative relationship, the Lasting Love Academy will help you identify early warning signs.You will confront your fears and thinking errors, identify what you need in a partner, understand the male and female psychology, and develop skills for all five stages of the dating process from getting a date to becoming exclusive, creating a secure attachment, and solving problems as a couple.

The Lasting Love Academy was created to help you be safe, confident, and successful. You CAN have a healthy, loving relationship!

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Which Lasting Love Academy course is right for you?

If you struggle to date and are not currently in a relationship, then the Dating and Relationship Package would be the best fit for you. It is the only Lasting Love Academy program that includes all courses and books.

The Dating and Relationship Package includes:

A Dating box with four books for him or her: 

  • Single? It's Not You--It's Your Technique (255 pages)

  • Become Secure Workbook (140 pages)

  • Red-Flag Rulebook (92 pages)

  • It’s Just Technique (140 pages)

 

OR 

A one-year membership with access to ALL LASTING LOVE ACADEMY courses including:

  • Stage 0: Become Secure
  • Stage 1: Dating Skills (with online versions of the books and an audio reading of Single?)
  • Stage 2 to 5: Relationship Skills

totaling hundreds of articles and over 40 hours of audios and videos, all of which are mobile friendly.

and a

To know if the Dating and Relationship Package is right for you, take the following self-tests.

Do you need better dating skills?

  1. Do you struggle to get the attention of the opposite sex?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you worry about how to approach others, start conversations, and ask for (or give ) a number?  ____ Y/N
  3. Do you fear appearing needy and desperate, embarrassing yourself, or being rejected?  ____ Y/N
  4. Do you want to date more attractive, confident, or successful singles?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you get caught in the too-nice, just-friends, good-for-now, hanging-out, or texting traps?  ____ Y/N
  6. Do you worry about how to time and pace dates, appropriately manage affection, avoid sexual contact, date multiple people, identify early warning signs, and secure the attention of A-Listers?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you struggle to make meaningful connections on dates?  ____ Y/N
  8. Do you struggle to get repeat dates or move relationships toward exclusivity and commitment?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you fear define-the-relationship conversations?  ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to three or more of the questions above, then the dating advice found in the four books (that will be mailed to you) and the Lasting Love Academy courses will be well worth your investment. You will learn how to date more, date better, have fun, and secure commitment. 

Do you need better relationship skills?

  1. When in a relationship, do you feel self-conscious, anxious, and not good enough?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you struggle to have difficult conversations, to ask hard questions, or discuss the relationship?  ____ Y/N
  3. Do you fear being rejected at the first sign of being needy or imperfect?  ____ Y/N
  4. When your partner tells you they love you, do you feel concerned because you aren't sure you can honestly say the same?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you worry that problems in a relationship mean it's wrong or fatally flawed?  ____ Y/N
  6. Do you or your partner struggle with doubts about the other's commitment?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you or your partner hold back, not engage fully, or ignore the needs of the relationship?  ____ Y/N
  8. Do you avoid introducing your partner to friends, family, or work colleges because you dread the questions or the pressure that may result?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you or your partner struggle to depend upon, rely on, or need the other?  ____ Y/N
  10. Do you and your partner struggle to resolve issues, such as money, sex, religion, cultural differences, parenting, step-parenting, extended family, debt, education, career changes, etc.?  ____ Y/N
  11. Do you or your partner act manipulative, passive-aggressive, or aggressive?  ____ Y/N
  12. Are you fighting more, getting hung up on small issues, or feeling a desire to run away?  ____ Y/N 
  13. Do you find yourself doing most of the work in your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  14. Do you struggle to express your feelings, needs, or opinions?   ____ Y/N
  15. Do you analyze and worry about the best way to handle situations?  ____ Y/N
  16. Do you worry that the other person will become toxic, abusive, unfaithful, or addicted?   ____ Y/N
  17. Do you worry that you're too picky or not picky enough?  ____ Y/N
  18. Do you feel paralyzed by anxiety and feel relentless doubt about your attraction, compatibility, or what might be best for you (or them)?  ____ Y/N
  19. Are you typically the one who ends a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  20. Do you feel pressure to get married or break up? ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to five or more of the questions above, then the dating and relationship package will be well worth your investment. This skill-development program will help you resolve your doubts, improve your relationship, and make progress with more confidence than ever before. 

Do you need to become more secure?

Answer yes or no to the following questions.

  1. Do you find yourself doing most of the work in your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you struggle to express your feelings, needs, or opinions?   ____ Y/N
  3. Do you analyze and worry about the best way to handle situations?  ____ Y/N
  4. Are you primarily concerned about getting and keeping a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you rarely get excited about the people you're dating (or meet)?  ____ Y/N
  6. Are you consumed with fears of settling or being trapped in a relationship (even when you're with someone great)?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you regularly question whether or not you want to be in your relationship?  ____ Y/N
  8. Are you typically the one who ends your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you get caught in unhealthy, abusive, manipulative, unfaithful, or dishonest relationships?   ____ Y/N
  10. Do you have difficulty trusting your judgment?   ____ Y/N
  11. Do you fear to be with someone who has a drug, alcohol, or sexual addiction?  ____ Y/N
  12. Are you plagued by concerns over whether you should stay or leave a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  13. Do you worry that you're too picky or not picky enough?  ____ Y/N
  14. Do you feel paralyzed by anxiety and feel relentless doubt about your attraction, compatibility, or what might be best for you (or them)?  ____ Y/N
  15. Do you linger in relationships because it is difficult to feel peace, progress, or break up?  ____ Y/N
  16. When you break up are you relieved at first but then feel paralyzed by longing and doubt a few weeks later?   ____ Y/N
  17. Do you put your partners through a revolving door of commitment and doubt?  ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to five or more of the questions above, Stage 0 will help you to feel more secure, confident, and resolved about your decisions and relationships.

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The Relationship Package

includes a downloadable workbook

and a one-year membership to the Lasting Love Academy online courses of:

  • Stage 0: Become Secure
  • Stage 2 to 5: Relationship Skills

totaling hundreds of articles and over 20 hours of audios and videos, all of which are mobile friendly.

and a

This package is best for those who are already in a relationship or don't need dating advice. 

To know if the Relationship Package is right for you, take the following self-tests.

Do you need better relationship skills?

  1. When in a relationship, do you feel self-conscious, anxious, and not good enough?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you struggle to have difficult conversations, to ask hard questions, or discuss the relationship?  ____ Y/N
  3. Do you fear being rejected at the first sign of being needy or imperfect?  ____ Y/N
  4. When your partner tells you they love you, do you feel concerned because you aren't sure you can honestly say the same?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you worry that problems in a relationship mean it's wrong or fatally flawed?  ____ Y/N
  6. Do you or your partner struggle with doubts about the other's commitment?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you or your partner hold back, not engage fully, or ignore the needs of the relationship?  ____ Y/N
  8. Do you avoid introducing your partner to friends, family, or work colleges because you dread the questions or the pressure that may result?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you or your partner struggle to depend upon, rely on, or need the other?  ____ Y/N
  10. Do you and your partner struggle to resolve issues, such as money, sex, religion, cultural differences, parenting, step-parenting, extended family, debt, education, career changes, etc.?  ____ Y/N
  11. Do you or your partner act manipulative, passive-aggressive, or aggressive?  ____ Y/N
  12. Are you fighting more, getting hung up on small issues, or feeling a desire to run away?  ____ Y/N 
  13. Do you find yourself doing most of the work in your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  14. Do you struggle to express your feelings, needs, or opinions?   ____ Y/N
  15. Do you analyze and worry about the best way to handle situations?  ____ Y/N
  16. Do you worry that the other person will become toxic, abusive, unfaithful, or addicted?   ____ Y/N
  17. Do you worry that you're too picky or not picky enough?  ____ Y/N
  18. Do you feel paralyzed by anxiety and feel relentless doubt about your attraction, compatibility, or what might be best for you (or them)?  ____ Y/N
  19. Are you typically the one who ends a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  20. Do you feel pressure to get married or break up? ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to five or more of the questions above, then the dating and relationship package will be well worth your investment. This skill-development program will help you resolve your doubts, improve your relationship, and make progress with more confidence than ever before. 

Do you need to become more secure?

Answer yes or no to the following questions.

  1. Do you find yourself doing most of the work in your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you struggle to express your feelings, needs, or opinions?   ____ Y/N
  3. Do you analyze and worry about the best way to handle situations?  ____ Y/N
  4. Are you primarily concerned about getting and keeping a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you rarely get excited about the people you're dating (or meet)?  ____ Y/N
  6. Are you consumed with fears of settling or being trapped in a relationship (even when you're with someone great)?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you regularly question whether or not you want to be in your relationship?  ____ Y/N
  8. Are you typically the one who ends your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you get caught in unhealthy, abusive, manipulative, unfaithful, or dishonest relationships?   ____ Y/N
  10. Do you have difficulty trusting your judgment?   ____ Y/N
  11. Do you fear to be with someone who has a drug, alcohol, or sexual addiction?  ____ Y/N
  12. Are you plagued by concerns over whether you should stay or leave a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  13. Do you worry that you're too picky or not picky enough?  ____ Y/N
  14. Do you feel paralyzed by anxiety and feel relentless doubt about your attraction, compatibility, or what might be best for you (or them)?  ____ Y/N
  15. Do you linger in relationships because it is difficult to feel peace, progress, or break up?  ____ Y/N
  16. When you break up are you relieved at first but then feel paralyzed by longing and doubt a few weeks later?   ____ Y/N
  17. Do you put your partners through a revolving door of commitment and doubt?  ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to five or more of the questions above, Stage 0 will help you to feel more secure, confident, and resolved about your decisions and relationships.

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BECOME SECURE 

is a good beginner course for those who are ensure about their readiness to date or be in a relationship.

it includes a downloadable workbook

and a one-year membership to the Become Secure articles and audios, all of which are mobile friendly.

and a

To know if this Lasting Love Academy course is right for you, take the following self-test. 

Do you need to become more secure?

Answer yes or no to the following questions.

  1. Do you find yourself doing most of the work in your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you struggle to express your feelings, needs, or opinions?   ____ Y/N
  3. Do you analyze and worry about the best way to handle situations?  ____ Y/N
  4. Are you primarily concerned about getting and keeping a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you rarely get excited about the people you're dating (or meet)?  ____ Y/N
  6. Are you consumed with fears of settling or being trapped in a relationship (even when you're with someone great)?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you regularly question whether or not you want to be in your relationship?  ____ Y/N
  8. Are you typically the one who ends your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you get caught in unhealthy, abusive, manipulative, unfaithful, or dishonest relationships?   ____ Y/N
  10. Do you have difficulty trusting your judgment?   ____ Y/N
  11. Do you fear to be with someone who has a drug, alcohol, or sexual addiction?  ____ Y/N
  12. Are you plagued by concerns over whether you should stay or leave a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  13. Do you worry that you're too picky or not picky enough?  ____ Y/N
  14. Do you feel paralyzed by anxiety and feel relentless doubt about your attraction, compatibility, or what might be best for you (or them)?  ____ Y/N
  15. Do you linger in relationships because it is difficult to feel peace, progress, or break up?  ____ Y/N
  16. When you break up are you relieved at first but then feel paralyzed by longing and doubt a few weeks later?   ____ Y/N
  17. Do you put your partners through a revolving door of commitment and doubt?  ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to five or more of the questions above, Stage 0 will help you to feel more secure, confident, and resolved about your decisions and relationships.

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BECOME SECURE

$49.95

A beginner course that includes

CORE CONCEPTS

Does not include dating and relationship techniques.

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$35-$195

A complete program that includes

4 BOOKS, CORE CONCEPTS, and ALL DATING and RELATIONSHIP TECHNIQUES

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$245 for international purchases

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CORE CONCEPTS and RELATIONSHIP TECHNIQUES

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  • author of seven books, numerous audios and videos, the It’s Not You—It’s Your Technique dating system, and the Lasting Love Academy courses
  • popular public speaker
  • guest on over 100 TV and radio programs nationwide
  • helped thousands of singles date more and find love
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Frequently Asked Questions

After choosing your payment option, you will be granted immediate access to the Lasting Love Academy. If you purchased, the Dating and Relationship Package, your books will arrive within a few days. As long as your books are gently used with no writing or marks, you can return them and terminate your membership for a full refund of your purchase. All membership refunds are dependent upon Alisa Snell, at [email protected], receiving a written request with "Refund" in the subject and your full name and email in the message.

Those living outside of the United States will receive a full refund, minus the cost of shipping. 

Although it is assumed that all singles will benefit from the concepts taught, individual results may vary. The Lasting Love Academy does not guarantee a specific outcome.

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Many singles have offered testimonials about the Lasting Love Academy and clients have provided coaching reviews. Click these links to read what they have to say.

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Most singles struggle with fears (such as not being good enough, rejection, failure, abandonment, being lied to, cheated on, and abused, or not having what other's experience). The Lasting Love Academy encourages singles to combat these fears with faith in themselves, their future, the goodness of the opposite sex, and religious or spiritual practices that support confidence in a loving God. The importance of empathy, self-control, and personal responsibility in relationships is taught. These values tend to align with most individuals and religions. Although Alisa Goodwin Snell's spiritual beliefs are briefly mentioned, the Lasting Love Academy is meant to be supportive of all religions.

If you struggle, like many singles, to have faith in spirituality or God, don't worry. This program will build on the faith that you have, or if you prefer simply ignore the principles of faith. 

Unsure what's right for you, 

The underlying concepts taught by the Lasting Love Academy should work universally among a wide variety of diverse populations. However, there are many dating differences between heterosexual, LGBTQ, and other social or cultural groups. The dating techniques taught in Stage 1: Dating Skills and in the Lasting Love Academy books, Single? and It's Just Technique were created and tested in a heterosexual and conservative population with traditional gender values.

Therefore, some singles (including those from LGBTQ, liberal, or other cultural backgrounds) may need to adapt the dating techniques to fit their specific culture or gender roles. The Lasting Love Academy emphasizes the importance of, and benefits that come, when individuals and couples exercise empathy, self-control, and personal responsibility. Those who appreciate these core values will find the Lasting Love Academy to be beneficial.

If you question whether the Lasting Love Academy would fit your needs, schedule a FREE CONSULT to discuss your situation and the best way to proceed.

If within 30-day you do not find the dating techniques are suitable to your situation, feel free to return them for a refund (as outlined under the 30-day guarantee).

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