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It's NOT YOU—It's Your Technique

10 Reasons You're Not Dating the People You Want

If you join the Lasting Love Academy, the BLACK links below will link you to the solutions you need.

Like many singles, you may feel unsure how to flirt, pursuestart conversations, or ask for a number. You're not sure how to use dating apps and websites, or you have bad experiences. When you meet someone you're excited about, instead of seizing the moment and acting with playful confidence, you overthink things and let your fears get in the way.

The Lasting Love Academy's books, audios, and how-to videos will give you a new perspective on yourself and others. You will start conversations with ease, handle rejection well, and look more desirable than ever. Meeting new singles will become more fun and exciting.

Thousands of singles have tested these techniques, and all Lasting Love Academy courses offer a 30-day money back guarantee.

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Like many people, you may struggle to find someone to date because you: fail to notice other singles during your daily activities, are not going where singles are (including social events and online or dating apps), don't take action when with someone you like, are easily turned off by other's imperfections, or quickly give up after brief spurts of effort.

It's not you—It's your technique!

The Lasting Love Academy will help you confront and change your ineffective dating behaviors and make it easier to approach singles in your everyday life, on social media, through dating apps, and at events. You will seize the moment, have fun, appear confident, and connect meaningfully with others.

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Like other singles, you may struggle to get attention because you fall into the too-nice or just-friends trap and you don't leave them wanting more.

The Lasting Love Academy books and videos provide step-by-step techniques for getting and keeping their attention, securing others investment, avoiding common dating traps, and being more desirable. 

If within 30 days, you can't find the answers you need among the hundreds of techniques, videos, and audios it offers, you can return the Lasting Love Academy books for a full refund.

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Like other singles, you may experience rejection while asking for a number, when trying to get a return call or text, at the last minute before a date, or while planning a follow-up date.

This may be because you aren't making them feel great, you're trying to date someone who is more attractive and accomplished than you, or you're misreading social cues.  

The Lasting Love Academy can help you make an unforgettable impression, improve your level of attractiveness, understand social rules, and handle rejection in a way that makes others want you more. These skills can be developed, not so you can be with someone who is the best (as this mindset contributes to many thinking errors and attachment issues), but so you can be with someone who is the best for you.

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Like many singles, you may struggle to feel excited about those you date and don't know why. This can cause you to act passively when dating and, once in a relationship, to feel consumed with doubts or worries about settling. Even when your partner is amazing, you believe you shouldn't commit if you don't feel the excitement you expect.

The Lasting Love Academy will help you understand anxious and avoidant attachments patterns, including how anxiety, thinking errors, pressure, and situational triggers drive you to disconnect. The problem isn't you or your dating partners, but these underlying forces. Once you confront and change them, you will experience the rewarding and exciting emotions you desire. Creating a secure attachment is a skill that you can learn.

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Like some singles, meeting and dating may not be a problem for you. Instead, you struggle with a compulsive need to keep your options open. You can't help noticing attractive, confident, talented, educated, fun, or exciting singles and couples, and you worry about missing out on something better than your current option. Your desire to be with the best keeps you window shopping and browsing through social media, dating apps, and singles events, even when dating someone with whom you're initially excited. 

Your primary interest in dating advice may be to up your game so you can date those you desire most. However, the Lasting Love Academy will do more for you than just this. You will feel more confident, make better decisions, experience more commitment, create deeper connections, and feel more passion for your partner.

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain because if you aren't satisfied with what you learn during the first 30 days, you can return your books and close your Lasting Love Academy membership for a full refund.

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You, like many singles, may get dates but have difficulty becoming exclusive. You don't know what you're doing that turns others off or if your issues are too much to handle. Just as frequently, you reject men or women too, but you tend to obsess about the people who are rejecting you.

The Lasting Love Academy will help you navigate the early stages of dating and avoid the common dating traps and thinking errors that drive others away. You will reduce anxiety and prevent the intensity that can cause too much pressure. You will create a secure foundation that makes you more desirable and confident that others will meet your needs.

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Like many other singles, you may repeatedly attract partners who lie, cheat, steal, manipulate, beat, and abuse substances. Unfortunately, in spite of your love and sacrifices, these individuals are the least likely to love you back. You do not need to tolerate their lack of investment or succumb to the good-for-now and too-nice traps that are wasting your time.

The Lasting Love Academy will help you identify the early warning signs of the abusive and manipulative. As you confront your fears and insecurities and express your feelings and needs, you will confidently walk away when others don't respond. You will not give the best of you to those who don't invest in you. After all, it is infinitely better to be happily single than miserably married to someone who lacks empathy, self-control, and personal responsibility. You can break the bad-boy and toxic-girl habit and learn to enjoy healthy chemistry with someone who values and invests in your happiness.

Lasting love isn't something that randomly happens for some and not others. It is created by those who choose good partners and develop the necessary skills to maintain relationships. Thus, you can experience it too.

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Like other singles, you may hear that your accomplishments intimidate potential dates. However, this is rarely the case. It is more likely that you're sending push away or stalemate messages instead of clear invitations for closeness. Rather than effectively encouraging others, you're being too cool, distant, or busy, which leaves them to question your interest. The truth may be that you are shy, fear being vulnerable, or don't want to appear needy, but that isn't how they see it. Your failure to make them feel great makes them uncomfortable, and so they don't flirt with or pursue you.

The Lasting Love Academy will help you express your interest in a confident, warm, and engaging way that encourages their investment. Knowing the best way to play your role will not only result in more dates but greater confidence. You will learn how to be vulnerable and give the empathy that is needed for a good relationship while exercising the discretion and boundaries that will expose a bad relationship.

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Like other singles, you may feel despair on occasion. If you struggle with depression, anxiety, grief, or trauma, you may feel it more chronically. However, when you give up hope, it shows in your behaviors, body language, texts, and conversations. A negative attitude often repels others, which may then convince you that you're unlovable, dating isn't fair, the opposite sex is wrong, and you shouldn't have to play the game.

Such attitudes are common and justified, but believing you are right will distract you from how to be effective.

Only through consistently taking action while trusting yourself, others, and the goodness of relationships will you get better results. A trusting, positive attitude is attractive and infectious.

Love is a choice! And lasting love is a skill you can develop. You are not the exception to this rule. 

If you fear that your situation is too unique to hope for a better result, schedule a free 30-minute consult to speak with one of our coaches. 

We are here to help you. You don't have to navigate dating alone. We can strengthen your faith, help you set reachable goals, personalize the advice to your situation, and support you through every stage of the process.

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The Lasting Love Academy

Dating and Relationship Package

The Lasting Love Academy offers several courses depending on the person's needs. If the issues and skills described on this page fit you, the Dating and Relationship Package would be the best choice and is the only program that includes everything.

The Dating and Relationship Package includes:

A Dating box with four books for him or her: 

  • Single? It's Not You--It's Your Technique (255 pages)

  • Become Secure Workbook (140 pages)

  • Red-Flag Rulebook (92 pages)

  • It’s Just Technique (140 pages)

 

OR 

A one-year membership with access to ALL LASTING LOVE ACADEMY courses including:

  • Stage 0: Become Secure
  • Stage 1: Dating Skills (with online versions of the books and an audio reading of Single?)
  • Stage 2 to 5: Relationship Skills

totaling hundreds of articles and over 40 hours of audios and videos, all of which are mobile friendly.

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If the problems and solutions outlined above resonated with your situation than the Lasting Love Academy will meet your needs. However, the following questions may further assist you in determining if it is right for you.

Do you need better dating skills?

  1. Do you struggle to get the attention of the opposite sex?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you worry about how to approach others, start conversations, and ask for (or give ) a number?  ____ Y/N
  3. Do you fear appearing needy and desperate, embarrassing yourself, or being rejected?  ____ Y/N
  4. Do you want to date more attractive, confident, or successful singles?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you get caught in the too-nice, just-friends, good-for-now, hanging-out, or texting traps?  ____ Y/N
  6. Do you worry about how to time and pace dates, appropriately manage affection, avoid sexual contact, date multiple people, identify early warning signs, and secure the attention of A-Listers?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you struggle to make meaningful connections on dates?  ____ Y/N
  8. Do you struggle to get repeat dates or move relationships toward exclusivity and commitment?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you fear define-the-relationship conversations?  ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to three or more of the questions above, then the dating advice found in the four books (that will be mailed to you) and the Lasting Love Academy courses will be well worth your investment. You will learn how to date more, date better, have fun, and secure commitment. 

Do you need better relationship skills?

  1. When in a relationship, do you feel self-conscious, anxious, and not good enough?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you struggle to have difficult conversations, to ask hard questions, or discuss the relationship?  ____ Y/N
  3. Do you fear being rejected at the first sign of being needy or imperfect?  ____ Y/N
  4. When your partner tells you they love you, do you feel concerned because you aren't sure you can honestly say the same?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you worry that problems in a relationship mean it's wrong or fatally flawed?  ____ Y/N
  6. Do you or your partner struggle with doubts about the other's commitment?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you or your partner hold back, not engage fully, or ignore the needs of the relationship?  ____ Y/N
  8. Do you avoid introducing your partner to friends, family, or work colleges because you dread the questions or the pressure that may result?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you or your partner struggle to depend upon, rely on, or need the other?  ____ Y/N
  10. Do you and your partner struggle to resolve issues, such as money, sex, religion, cultural differences, parenting, step-parenting, extended family, debt, education, career changes, etc.?  ____ Y/N
  11. Do you or your partner act manipulative, passive-aggressive, or aggressive?  ____ Y/N
  12. Are you fighting more, getting hung up on small issues, or feeling a desire to run away?  ____ Y/N 
  13. Do you find yourself doing most of the work in your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  14. Do you struggle to express your feelings, needs, or opinions?   ____ Y/N
  15. Do you analyze and worry about the best way to handle situations?  ____ Y/N
  16. Do you worry that the other person will become toxic, abusive, unfaithful, or addicted?   ____ Y/N
  17. Do you worry that you're too picky or not picky enough?  ____ Y/N
  18. Do you feel paralyzed by anxiety and feel relentless doubt about your attraction, compatibility, or what might be best for you (or them)?  ____ Y/N
  19. Are you typically the one who ends a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  20. Do you feel pressure to get married or break up? ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to five or more of the questions above, then the dating and relationship package will be well worth your investment. This skill-development program will help you resolve your doubts, improve your relationship, and make progress with more confidence than ever before. 

Do you need to become more secure?

Answer yes or no to the following questions.

  1. Do you find yourself doing most of the work in your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  2. Do you struggle to express your feelings, needs, or opinions?   ____ Y/N
  3. Do you analyze and worry about the best way to handle situations?  ____ Y/N
  4. Are you primarily concerned about getting and keeping a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  5. Do you rarely get excited about the people you're dating (or meet)?  ____ Y/N
  6. Are you consumed with fears of settling or being trapped in a relationship (even when you're with someone great)?  ____ Y/N
  7. Do you regularly question whether or not you want to be in your relationship?  ____ Y/N
  8. Are you typically the one who ends your relationships?  ____ Y/N
  9. Do you get caught in unhealthy, abusive, manipulative, unfaithful, or dishonest relationships?   ____ Y/N
  10. Do you have difficulty trusting your judgment?   ____ Y/N
  11. Do you fear to be with someone who has a drug, alcohol, or sexual addiction?  ____ Y/N
  12. Are you plagued by concerns over whether you should stay or leave a relationship?  ____ Y/N
  13. Do you worry that you're too picky or not picky enough?  ____ Y/N
  14. Do you feel paralyzed by anxiety and feel relentless doubt about your attraction, compatibility, or what might be best for you (or them)?  ____ Y/N
  15. Do you linger in relationships because it is difficult to feel peace, progress, or break up?  ____ Y/N
  16. When you break up are you relieved at first but then feel paralyzed by longing and doubt a few weeks later?   ____ Y/N
  17. Do you put your partners through a revolving door of commitment and doubt?  ____ Y/N

If you answered yes to five or more of the questions above, Stage 0 will help you to feel more secure, confident, and resolved about your decisions and relationships.

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 Alisa Goodwin Snell, M.A. 

  • author of seven books, numerous audios and videos, the It’s Not You—It’s Your Technique dating system, and the Lasting Love Academy courses
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Frequently Asked Questions

After choosing your payment option, you will be granted immediate access to the Lasting Love Academy. If you purchased, the Dating and Relationship Package, your books will arrive within a few days. As long as your books are gently used with no writing or marks, you can return them and terminate your membership for a full refund of your purchase. All membership refunds are dependent upon Alisa Snell, at [email protected], receiving a written request with "Refund" in the subject and your full name and email in the message.

Those living outside of the United States will receive a full refund, minus the cost of shipping. 

Although it is assumed that all singles will benefit from the concepts taught, individual results may vary. The Lasting Love Academy does not guarantee a specific outcome.

Many singles have offered testimonials about the Lasting Love Academy and clients have provided coaching reviews. Click these links to read what they have to say.

Most singles struggle with fears (such as not being good enough, rejection, failure, abandonment, being lied to, cheated on, and abused, or not having what other's experience). The Lasting Love Academy encourages singles to combat these fears with faith in themselves, their future, the goodness of the opposite sex, and religious or spiritual practices that support confidence in a loving God. The importance of empathy, self-control, and personal responsibility in relationships is taught. These values tend to align with most individuals and religions. Although Alisa Goodwin Snell's spiritual beliefs are briefly mentioned, the Lasting Love Academy is meant to be supportive of all religions.

If you struggle, like many singles, to have faith in spirituality or God, don't worry. This program will build on the faith that you have, or if you prefer simply ignore the principles of you're. 

The underlying concepts taught by the Lasting Love Academy should work universally among a wide variety of diverse populations. However, there are many dating differences between heterosexual, LGBTQ, and other social or cultural groups. The dating techniques taught in Stage 1: Dating Skills and in the Lasting Love Academy books, Single? and It's Just Technique were created and tested in a heterosexual and conservative population with traditional gender values.

Therefore, some singles (including those from LGBTQ, liberal, or other cultural backgrounds) may need to adapt the dating techniques to fit their specific culture or gender roles. The Lasting Love Academy emphasizes the importance of, and benefits that come, when individuals and couples exercise empathy, self-control, and personal responsibility. Those who appreciate these core values will find the Lasting Love Academy to be beneficial.

If you question whether the Lasting Love Academy would fit your needs, schedule a FREE CONSULT to discuss your situation and the best way to proceed.

If within 30-day you do not find the dating techniques are suitable to your situation, feel free to return them for a refund (as outlined under the 30-day guarantee).

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